Today in class we were discussing the importance of marriage and why getting married is so important. With that we concluded.
What is a marriage about?
- Marriage is a contract, and you have to honor and respect the terms of the contract.
- It’s a type of ibadaah
- When dealing with one another husband/wife you are also dealing with Allah subhana wata’ala
- Allah says in the quraan “They have rights as they have obligations”
- Marriage is the sunnah of life
- In general marriage is recommanded
- The one who doesnt marry is incomplete in his faith
- “And of the signs he created of yourselves mates, so you may live in tranquility”.
Do’s and Don’ts
- Do not humiliate one another
- Use good language with one another
- Ask your husband or wife what they like so you can do it constantly and know what they dislike like so you can avoid doing it.
- You are rewarded for the good things you do for your family as charity. As the prophet (Salalaahu alaihi wasalam) said the best charity that can be spent is on your family.
- If you don’t have tranquility in your house than you need to work on your marriage
- Make time to spend with your wife/husband
- Learn together
- be kind,gental and tell him/her you love them constantly
- Shower and suprise eachother with gifts
- Woman beautify yourselves and look pleasing to your husband at all times
- Must have patience and communication,dialogue is very important
- have a peaceful and loving home.
Sutiable husband
Good deen, Good aklaaq (manners) these are the two qualities the Prophet (Salallaahu alaihi wasalam) said were the most important when choosing a good husband. Then come everything else good looks, capable of support, family.
Sutiable Wife
Good deen, Good Aklaaq (manners), money, family, beauty, fertility.
The marriage life
The best husband honors his wife and the best wife is like a treasure in this world.
- Problems between husband and wife will arise but remember they are only tests from Allah. It is natural to have problems because you are bringing two different people from two different families together.
- There is no perfect match
- Deal with eachother with love and mercy, without mercy a marriage cannot survive.
- The Prophet (salalaahu alaihi wasalam) said ” The best of you is the one who is best to his wives and I am the best to my wives”.
- The purpose of marriage is to help eachother worship Allah better
The best wife
The most beautiful wife is the one who is the most righteous, when you look at her she pleases you, when your gone she watches over your property and when you order her she obeys.
Marriage helps in helping us lower our gaze and from commiting zina. As the Prophet salalaahu alaihi wasalam said “Marry if you are able to, and if not fast”
May Allah make it easy for everyone and give us all a happy, healthy and a marriage full of tranquility.
Loving you all for the sake of Allah
Your sister in Islam,
